Rape and Sexual Assault

Have you been sexually assaulted or have you been wondering what is the different sexual assault and sex since the both has to do with sexual activity.

Lots of people are battling with the trauma they got from being raped and sexually assaulted by people of their opposite sex and people of the same sex gender.

Someone may ask can rape and sexual assault be traumatizing. The answer is “yes” it can even do worst than just disturbing to the individual that is experiences it.

What is Rape? This is a forceful intentional penetration of a male, female or same sex private organ (vagina, penis, anus or mouth) without the victim’s consent or permission, therefore is considered as a violence act.

Note: Rape can never be seen or considered to be sex because it has to deal with one person taking advantage over another person that seen inferior or on able to defend him or herself physically.

What is Sexual assault?

This is also a forceful penetration and demonstration of sexual activities. Sexual assault is considered violation sexual act and it has the ability of affecting the victim’s psychologically, physically and emotionally, because it can manipulate the victims of it or even someone witnessing anyone being sexually assaulted.

Note: the act of sexual assault involves penetrating the sex organ of a male or female organ with objects which are likely to influence the victim with injuries, marks, distress and emotionally traumatized.

Rape and Sexual Assault in our Society

In our society, the issue of sexual assault and rape is very common and it keep happening everyday to women, boys, girls and even our little children all around the world. This issue should never be taken lightly because it destroys the society and create trauma that are lightly to last and stay for a life time to the individuals victimized.

Rape and sexual assault has high rate in some countries but it is never discussed because it’s never brought up or the victims are threatened and scared of what people will say or think about them. Below are places and areas where rape and sexual assault could happen;

  1. In schools
  2. Offices
  3. Entertainment centers
  4. Among pal groups
  5. House maids and helpers
  6. In relationships
  7. Child rape and abuses

Emotional effects of Rape and sexual assault

  • This act causes disorientation in the victims
  • It creates fear in the victims
  • Creates consistent shock
  • It causes the inability for the victims to trust anyone
  • The victims looses ability to self control
  • The victims have feelings of helplessness
  • The victims feel vulnerable in the society
  • The victims tend to live with guilt for the rest of their lives.

Physical Effects of Rape and sexual assault

  • Transmitting of STDs
  • Dislocations of some parts of the body especially joints.
  • Injuries to the vaginal wells, penis and anus
  • Pregnancy
  • Bruises and scares to the skin.

Mental Effective of Rape and sexual assault

  • Depression
  • Distress
  • Suicide
  • Post traumatic stress disorder
  • Lack of focus
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Lack of reasoning adequately
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Inability to sleep and eat normal
  • An involuntary shaking of hands and body
  • Shortness of breath

How to recover from traumas caused by rape and sexual assaults

Have you been sexually assaulted or raped and you are going through trauma and seeking for help on how to get over this ugly incident; here are some tips that will set your mind right and help you overcome this challenging situation that is taking over your life with guilt and fear of the unknown.

Step1. Speak Up About it: one thing you should bear in mind is that sexual assault and rape is a serious and unpardonable act by law. Victims of rape who speak up about what happened to them always got their justice, so do not let fear of what happened to you keep you down and destroy the good aspect of you.

Step2. Stop Blaming Yourself: most persons that are victim of rape and sexual assault tend to blame themselves for what happened and keep asking themselves why it happened to them; because of these assault the victims live in fear, guilt and shame for this terrible incident.

Thing you should bear in mind is that nothing justify the act of rape or sexual assault from anyone and is not excusable. This is to say that if you are a victim and it has affected your life, the best way to recover from it is by not blaming yourself for it because lots of persons that passed through it was not cause by you but they were also victims just like you.

Step3. Overcome the Thoughts and the Upsetting Flashbacks: one way to fight the trauma that comes with rape and sexual assault is by preparing your mind to overcome the thoughts of what happened to you. This is because victims of rape go through traumatizing moments that comes with flashback of the rape and this creates tormenting memories that are capable of destroying the individual’s mental ability to reason normal.

You must protect your heart and mind from those flashes that will come from time to time to stop you from living your normal life or doing things that makes you happy.

Step4. Redirect your mind and Feeling: redirecting your mind and feelings from the traumatic event of the rape and sexual assault is another amazing way of recovering. This is because your mind and how you feel about yourself and things has a way of transforming how you see yourself irrespective of how much this rape has changed so many things about you.

Step5. Through away the past And Move on: recovering from a hurtful and traumatizing assaults such as rape can be much easier for the victims if only they can work on their mind by putting away the incident behind them, see it as your past and look forward to the future.

One of the reasons why victims of rape and sexual assault never recover quickly from the fear and trauma of what happened to them is because they hold unto the fear, tears, hurts and pains that were influenced on them through the assault.

How to Assist Victims of Rape & Assaults Recover from Trauma

Victims of rape and sexual assault develop painful and hurtful emotions that go a long way to affect things about them physically, mentally and psychologically but one amazing thing about these effects is that it can be carefully handled, managed and controlled by anyone with a positive and reliable mindset because victims of rape lack trust in everyone around then.

Below are ways victims of rape and sexual assists victims of assault recover from the terrible trauma they are being faced with on daily bases.

#1. Create Trust: trust is one future that victims of rape and sexual assaults don’t have. This is because what happened to them disabled the trust in them and created fear and distrust in them. Let them know that they are not to be blamed for whatever happened to them and they can confer in you to share their thoughts with you.

#2. Show Love (unconditionally): showing them love unconditionally makes them feel accepted irrespective of what might have experienced and the stigma the act of being rape has created around them.

Show them love by words, actions by communication and be helping them out through their pains and tears.

#3. Never Force or Pressure them to speak about the Assault: one thing you should always bear in mind is that no victim of rape and sexual assault will find it easy to speak about what happened or narrate the incident because it puts them in more frustrating condition and causes more pains in them. Is advisable never to force them as much time they need to get over it and most importantly let them know that they can speak to you anytime they are comfortable to talk about it.

#4. Be conscious about your actions: victims of rape and sexual assault are always sensitive about actions that are demonstrated around them such as body language. This is because they don’t want to go through what they went through before.

To help them recover quickly, you must have a positive body language that does not signal negativity to them.

#5. Manage your Stress first: before you can be considered fit to help someone who is going through trauma from rape and assault recover, you must be mentally fit and capable to manage your stress at all time. This because facing victims of rape and helping to stabilize them mentally requires someone that is sound and stable psychologically.

#6. Help them develop back their intimacy with others: victims of rape and assault find it difficult to love again or fall in love with anyone, and this is where your role as an assistant is very much needed.

To help them achieve this you should try channeling their mind, attentions and thoughts to other nice activities and people around them that are willing to protect them at all cost; in so doing, they might want to come around them and enjoy staying with others.

#7. Introduce them to other social lifestyles: introducing victims of rape to social lifestyles and activities is a good way of building their confidence and boldness again. Find out things they enjoy doing and what they can do best and encourage them never to give up on themselves and their dreams; in so doing, they will see reasons to fight the trauma and overcome it just to be happy and do what they love doing.

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